Revised Aug. 20, 2008
Read: (1) Fundamentals of an Apology and (2) Victim’s Account of Abuse
Five-Points of a Genuine Apology
Confession, regret and acknowledgement of their hurt/harm/pain: I am sorry
Accept Responsibility: I was wrong
Genuine Repentance: I will not do this again
Restitution: What can I do to make this right?
Request Forgiveness: Will you please forgive me?
On a separate paper, complete the expressions below for each of the 5 points.
1. I regret and am sorry that:
I acknowledge that I caused you hurt, harm, pain:
2. I was wrong in that I:
W hat I did was wrong and selfish. It was all my fault.
I take full responsibility for my sinful actions.
3. I promise I will not ever do this again:
I will make every effort to _______ by doing X
This is what I’m going to do so this will never happen again…
4. To make restitution, I offer to:
5. I hope that you will be able to forgive me some day:
To your family, I have this to say:
To your “significant others,” I have this to say:
To the church, I have this to say:
To God, I have this to say:
Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; FIRST be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. Matt 5: 23-24